Tuesday, March 27, 2007

Marriage and divorce

Like it or not, marriage says something about God. The New Testament tells us that in a marriage the man and woman represent Christ and the church. That’s why God expects a woman to obey her man and the man to go to the cross for his woman. The church is the bride of Christ, and Jesus loves her like a groom---passionately, completely, and forever. A faithful marriage proclaims and celebrates that love, especially between Christians.

When Christians divorce, or even fool around, they’re saying something about Christ, too. A woman who cheats on her husband is telling the world that Christ’s love isn’t enough. When a man is unfaithful to his wife, he’s shouting from the rooftops that Jesus Christ is a liar. And divorce says both at once.

Too much burden to lay on one couple? Maybe so. That’s why the church is supposed to be helping us stay faithful to our vows. And when we do, not only are our own lives blessed, but Jesus Christ himself is lifted up.

(c) Copyright 2007, A. Milton Stanley

6 comments:

divorce banner said...

We should try banning all intentional abortion and all civil divorce contracts.

Abortion is obvious since it's the murder of young people nine months and younger.

Divorce is a lie. It's claiming to do what's impossible: dissolve a marriage vow. The marriage vow exists outside the man and woman, though it was created by them. The State and Church can't create a vow; they simply witness it. The marriage contract is a piece of paper that simply informs us of the reality that an abstract and life-long marriage vow now exists.

Nothing can dissolve a marriage vow: not the couple, not a piece of paper (divorce declaration/contract), not the State, not the Church, not abortion, not abuse, not adultery, not abandonment.

We can't have remarriage since it implies that claiming to dissolve a marriage dissolves a marriage. Marriages have a 50% divorce rate; remarriages have a 60% divorce rate.

In the divorce and separation contracts, the couple can insert provisions for alimony, child support, restraining orders, 50-50 asset division, etc. So, if both contracts have the same benefits, then how is the divorce contract even pragmatically necessary? It's not.

So ban it. Malta and Philippines still do. Ireland did until 1997. Italy did until 1980. South Carolina did until 1950. All of Europe did until the 1900's. What are we thinking crushing babies and our families like we do? We're going to hell if we continue.

For Catholics who want to get religious annulments and then try marrying again in the Church to another person, then all they need do is first get a civil annulment contract (which will still be legal). Since each US bishop governs the annulment tribunals in his diocese, then he can match up the Church’s standard of annulments with the State’s. One may object that the Church shouldn’t make its conditions dependent on the State’s conditions, but every US bishop does right now in how it requires civil divorce before even looking at a petition for religious annulment. Even though canon law doesn't require it, and even though there are other places like Malta and Philippines that don't (can't) require secular divoce before religious annulment. (I think the US bishops should stop catering to Catholics who want to try out multiple spouses. The Church should start helping validly married couples restore their relationships. The Church should start helping invalidly married couples convalidate (make valid) their marriages by saying the vows again. In fact, canon law requires all bishops to encourage convalidation, not the opposite.) The US bishops must start trying to ban abortion and divorce outright and right now.

cynthia said...

Congratulations on your new site. It's great to hear you elaborate on specific topics.

Milton Stanley said...

Thanks, Cynthia. I'm honored that you're a reader. Keep up the good work at DS. Peace.

Milton Stanley said...

Divorce Banner, it sounds like you've posted canned content in the comments section. Still, I appreciate your stopping by and sharing your thoughts.

Royce Ogle said...

divorce banner.........Take a deep breath.

Milton, Good post. Keep it up.

Hey, thanks for adding me to the blogdigger thingie.

Grace and Peace,
Royce Ogle

Milton Stanley said...

Glad you like it, Royce, and glad to have your blog on the Blogdigger group. Peace.